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Taking some time today to journey along the path of who we are. As individuals, as parents, as siblings, as aunties and uncles, as work partners, each of us is on our own unique life path.  I have been a sister, a daughter, a mother, a wife, a friend, a carer, and a listener. I am creative and consider myself empathetic towards others. I’m a natural teacher.  I’m very good at doing things for others when I feel the need or see the need, but I’m not so good at caring for myself.   This has been a learning part of this life journey, that I’m on.  Being kind to me.  Allowing my self-space for who I am and what I want to do. Being of service to others is so rewarding it seems, yet being kind to yourself and giving yourself space is always 2nd or 3rd on my list.  

I listen to the younger generation, and I think they are the clever ones.  I really do.  As a young mum back in the 80’s, I would not have dreamt of asking my partner to take time off if I needed help with our growing family.  We just got on with the job and got through the days. I wouldn’t consider taking a day off from work if I needed a break. We showed up at work with sniffles or a headache or if we weren’t feeling quite ourselves. It was the done thing.  Where do you fit in with this line of thought?  There was no parent leave, or mental health days, and there was no bereavement leave.  It’s a strange situation when you stop and think about it.  Times were different I know, and I’m not complaining, I’m just comparing. Just wondering.  Stopping in my footsteps and thinking. What can I learn?  How can I begin to look after myself, and the way the modern world works, and not keep myself stuck in what I consider old ways of thinking? 

So now I do take time out to do what I want. If I don’t feel like working on a particular day, I make sure I do something for myself.  It might be a walk, or lately a short run, it might be a phone call to a friend. It might be time out to read a book that I’ve been considering. It might be time to write a blog or spend time in my garden.  I do make sure I take time out for myself now. It’s ok. It feels ok.  I can say that I was worried, at first, about what people might think.  What people might think …….. the thing is no one thinks anything. Everyone is so busy doing what they’re doing that there is no one to “think” about what I’m doing. I mean it’s a bit pious even to contemplate that someone might be thinking about what I’m doing right? Yet my brain still tries to tell me that ill be judged if I sit and do something for myself.  

What do you do for yourself?  What can you do to make time to breathe in and out and not worry about the world?  The world will always be there, waiting for you to return to your usual things, it’s okay to stop, breathe, smell the roses and take time out for yourself.